|So youíre going on a blind date. Few dating scenarios are as nerve wracking, and youíve probably heard lots of horror stories about miserable blind dates. Your blind date doesnít have to be a disaster, though, if you follow a few simple suggestions to help it be more successful.
Communication experts say that we commonly form an impression of someone new within the first four minutes of meeting them. The first impression you make will set the stage for the entire blind date so prepare in advance to make a good one. Choose clothes that are appropriate for the date, not too revealing or strange. Get a fresh haircut, trim your fingernails, and shine your shoes if needed. On the day of date itself, allow plenty of time to get ready and allow extra travel time to wherever the two of you are meeting.
Where To Go And What To Do
Plan the date for a neutral location, preferably one where there will be a number of other people. When you donít know the other person itís not safe to meet in private, plus if youíre in a fairly active location itís easier to disengage yourself from the date if necessary.
Most dating experts recommend that a blind date not be centered on a meal. If the date isnít going well and youíre having dinner, you have to stick it out longer than if youíre meeting for coffee. Thereís also the cost factor to consider. If either person is investing a lot of money in the date activity that puts more intense pressure on both people.
The First Meeting
Arrive a little early, make sure youíre neatly dressed, and step forward with a polite greeting and hand shake. Remember to smile and be friendly, even if you feel nervous. If youíre a man, open doors, hang up her coat, and pull out her chair if youíre sitting down. If youíre a woman and your date does these things for you, say thank you and enjoy being treated with good manners.
Getting the conversation started and keeping it going is important to the success of your date. Remember those experts who said a first impression is formed in less than four minutes? They also tell us that communication is based on much more than just words. In fact, when youíre talking with your date the words you use only account for 7% of the total communication occurring. Your tone of voice accounts for 38% of your message and body language accounts for the remaining 55%.
Ending The Date
When the date comes to an end, thank the other person and say something general like ďI enjoyed meeting you.Ē If things went really well then you can indicate if youíd like to date him or her again. If things didnít go so well then donít say youíll call, or that maybe you could get together again sometime. This will create a false impression in the other person and simply avoids the truth.
If you donít want to see the other person again, itís okay to say so politely. Saying something like ďI think we donít have a lot in commonĒ is much kinder than saying ďIíll call youĒ and then not calling. Always be kind, though, and make every effort to spare his or her feelings as much as possible.
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